Do You Surrender or Turn it Over?
My friend John has been asked to deliver a presentation to the recovery community about letting go, or in 12-step parlance, turning it over.
We talked about the challenges of turning it over and then taking it back. We each confessed that we’re guilty of the back-and-forth, pull and push of any given challenge or drama that for us, necessitates turning it over.
Then we decided that it’s hard to put into words what turning it over means.
After we talked a little more, I asked him whether turning it over was the child’s version of the adult’s surrender.
John thought about it for a bit and said, “Well, it does seem like surrendering is the final, ‘okay, God, I give up. You can have it.’”
At first I thought he was right. Now I’m thinking toe-may-toe/toe-mah-toe.
See what you think.
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Stepping Stones: A Bucket Trip List
Bill Wilson, the co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, and his wife Lois, lived the remaining years of their lives after Bill got sober, here at Stepping Stones, a historic home in Westchester County, New York.
Just up the hill is Bill’s writing studio, which Lois named Wit’s End, and where he penned several books and articles, most notably, Alcoholics Anonymous, also known as The Big Book.
Dear friends and I walked these grounds and toured the buildings one week ago today. For anyone in recovery, you’ll understand the power of stepping across the same floorboards that Bill and many other alcoholics once did.
Nearly all of us, whether in active recovery or not, has been touched by the disease of alcoholism and it’s my hope that you’ll pick up a smidgeon of appreciation for the reverence with which we spent our time at Stepping Stones.
In the above quote, Bill mentions a friend and their “simple talk in our kitchen.” That friend was an old school pal of Bill’s named Ebby Thatcher who showed up on Bill’s doorstep one day and as we say, “12-stepped” Bill. You see, Bill was still on the insane merry-go-round of drinking and Ebby was glowingly sober and had come to tell Bill all about it.
The talk didn’t take place at Stepping Stones but it did occur at the small formica table and chairs that was moved to this kitchen. When I sat at the table, I was in awe of Bill’s reference to the “widening circle of peace on earth and good will to men” thanks to the humble beginning of the conversation between Bill and Ebby.
One hand, one heart, one mind reaching out to a similar heart in need. One singular talk between two old friends, rearranged the course of their lives and laid a path for millions of others for generations to come.
Do you think there was some divine providence involved?
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The July issue of Wild Sister is out and it’s a doozy! With the theme, “Make Your Dreams Come True,” I wrote this piece about coming home . . . to myself.
Tiny Buddha is a sought-after guest post for anyone who writes in the spiritual/mindfulness field. Lori Deschene gave me my first spot (hopefully first of many!) with “Peace is Learning the Lesson.” http://tinybuddha.com/blog/peace-is-learning-the-lesson/
June 2012 began with my first monthly article in Wild Sister, a unique magazine appealing to the adventurer in every woman.
I broke into LifeHack in mid-May with this post called “9 Childhood Rules Best Forgotten by Adults.” http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/9-childhood-rules-best-forgotten-by-adults.html
Balance in Me, written by Anastasiya Goers, hosted me in a post called How to Bring Your Emotions in Line With Your Spine. I wrote about my experiences with my chiropractor and drew the parallel between physical and emotional balance. This post had nearly 100 Facebook shares. http://balanceinme.com/balanced-body/emotional-alignment/
My friend Christopher Foster is an amazing 80-year-old blogger writing an equaling amazing blog called The Happy Seeker. He graciously let me tell my story of recovery from addiction in a post called “Saying Yes to Life: One Woman’s Inspiring Story.” http://www.thehappyseeker.com/2012/05/07/saying-yes-to-life-one-womans-inspiring-story/
Alex Blackwell writes The Bridgemaker, an inspiring blog with nearly 4,000 subscribers and nearly as many Facebook fans. I am honored to share my recovery story on his site. http://www.thebridgemaker.com/why-recovery-takes-more-than-desire/
From the September issue of Wild Sister, a three-month-old e-mag founded and edited by Jen Saunders, of My Smiling Heart, to empower women, “Double Rainbows & The Present Moment,” on page 11. This 48-page mag already has 1800+ Facebook subscribers.